The way to overcome unfavorable circumstances

From:Voice of Longquan     Author:Voice of Longquan     Time:2018-06-06 13:08:03
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Appreciate others’ kindness, merits and virtues, learn from them, be fair and care for them the same way we care for ourselves. Only in this way, can we gain happiness and growth.

 

Q: Master, how do I overcome fears and heal trauma? My life feels not easy in the least.

A: A pessimist sees nothing but confining walls around him while an optimist sees roads to many places. All depends on one’s perspective. Everyone in his or her lifetime experiences ups and downs, sufferings and joys, success and failure. It’s normal as the changeable weather -- rain or shine; we do not always worry about rain, right? The underlying reason for your feeling is that you see frustrations in your life unacceptable and abnormal and focus on negative interpretations of your life; as a result, your calmness and optimism are undermined. If you lower your expectations about life and truly accept failures rather than fearing them, you’ll become more resilient and relaxed.


Q: Master, how do I have an objective opinion of others? If someone annoys me, I would scrutinize his or her personality, attempting to find all shortcomings, meanness, shamelessness and wickedness in him or her, and then I would feel very upset and sad.

A: No two persons are the same, and everyone has his or her individual personality, traits, and opinions. So it is impossible to have everyone please you or every circumstance favor you. If you always go about proving others wrong by collecting their shortcomings and defects, you will end up having no friend and finding no one agreeable. How can you be happy when your mind is stuffed with rubbish of others’ problems?

How you view others matter the most, more than how you approach them, when you socialize with others. Buddhas and Bodhisattvas teach us to appreciate others’ kindness, merits and virtues, learn from them, be fair and care for them the same way we care for ourselves. Only in this way, can we gain happiness and growth.

 

 

Q: Greetings Master! I am a narrow-minded person and always haggle over some small things. I should know better but I just cannot help it. I always regret after the incidents. It is said that a broad mind holds more blessings. Master, how do I cultivate a broad mind? I’d appreciate your advice.

A: To train a mind takes time and efforts. It is advisable that you undertake things in the interest of the public. For instance, you can lead a team or a class, or serve others in a community. The key is to learn to consider others’ interest more and give less thought to yours, and to view a matter from different perspectives so that you can understand needs of various people.


Q: Greetings Master! Recently I’m transfered from a clinical position to an administrative office. I find that people in the office, younger than me though, are very sophisticated and reserved. Sometimes the environment depresses me. I don’t know how to view this situation and how to lighten up my mood.

A: Environment is a manifestation of the minds involved. Ordinary people are susceptible to the environment – they become depressed in a depressing environment, cautious in a calculating environment, optimistic in a positive environment, and serene in a pure environment. In unfavorable circumstances, we should try hard to guard our mind from being affected and keep to our life goals and faith.

Editor:Nina
Tags:accept failures; appreciate merits; life goals; different perspectives

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