Self-transformation and Spiritual Growth with Others

From:Voice of Longquan      Author:Voice of Longquan      Time:2018-05-03 11:27:02
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Calm down and keep undisturbed in any external circumstances, favorable or unfavorable; hold on to the direction of your life, be fully aware of your strength and weaknesses, neither swagger nor despair, and do remember to pray for there is always a ray of hope ahead.

Q: Master, I have no friend and I do not want to socialize with others because I can see nothing but faults and defects in them. On the other hand, I am very sensitive and much concerned about others’ opinions. Master, please tell me how to improve myself?

A: Tame your arrogance. An arrogant person is apt to look down upon others, while afraid of others’ disapproval which is likely to shatter his self-deception. Apparently, an arrogant person turns his nose up at others and cares about nothing. Indeed, he feels very insecure inside because he thinks way too highly of himself. Try to lower yourself, recognize and admit your own shortcomings, appreciate the goodness in others, be fully aware that everyone has merits and demerits and so do you, join others in learning, self-transformation and spiritual growth.


Q: Master, what kind of practice can be counted as a diligent one? What about earnest working? What about engaging in one act of kindness every day? What about reflecting on my own faults every day? Master, please instruct me.

A: Things that you mentioned cannot be denied as non-practice, but they are done in a sporadic way. Let me illustrate by the example of schooling. One has to attend a school if he or she wants to learn in a systematic, integrated, and orderly manner. It’s the same with Buddhist learning and practice. One has to join a pure, harmonious and progressive team and follow the guidance of a virtuous Master and Sangha at a monastery, and learn Dharma together with fellow practitioners.

 

Q: Master, recently I was frustrated again and again when trying to find a job. Since the Spring peak season of employment has almost come to an end, I cannot help thinking of myself useless. Frustrations and failures have taken away all my courage. What should I do, Master?

A: Consecutive frustrations would make a person feel bad and useless. Yet feelings are just feelings. Your bad feeling, like your extremely confident feeling on the crest of success, is a kind of delusion in which you will lose correct judgment on yourself. Calm down and keep undisturbed in any external circumstances, favorable or unfavorable; hold on to the direction of your life, be fully aware of your strength and weaknesses, neither swagger nor despair, and do remember to pray for there is always a ray of hope ahead.


Q: Master, is bad luck an indication of few blessings? Another, sometimes I really want to help others, yet my sincerity used to be seen as hypocrisy or ostentation. So I find myself shy away from doing good. How do I overcome such fear? Please instruct me, Master.

A: To be a help, you should cultivate your merits and wisdom, and improve your capability to subdue afflictions, which is fairly important. In other words, we must engage in practice in a down-to-earth manner, otherwise, we would have many confusions.

Editor:Nina
Tags:self-transformation , spiritual growth, arrogance, frustrations

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