The way to feel closely connected with people though far apart

From:Voice of Longquan     Author:Voice of Longquan     Time:2018-03-14 09:57:58
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There is a karmic link between us and people around. Whether we are together or apart depends on the karmic cause and conditions. It is suggested that you master and cultivate your mind rather than seeking and relying on desirable external circumstances. Make aspiration and cultivate your ultimate faith, you'll not feel lonely and you'll feel closely connected with people though far apart.

Q: Greetings to Master! I want to know the cause for one's loneliness. I've been being alone in the past years since graduation. I used to have many friends at school; yet we broke up after graduation, and I did not live well. What causes the change in my relationships since I believe I haven't changed in my personality? I'd appreciate your instruction. Many thanks! 

A: Having people around you doesn't mean you are connected with them; having no one to talk with doesn't mean one is lonely. There is a karmic link between us and people around. Whether we are together or apart depends on the karmic cause and conditions. It is suggested that you master and cultivate your mind rather than seeking and relying on desirable external circumstances. Make aspiration and cultivate your ultimate faith, you'll not feel lonely and you'll feel closely connected with people though far apart.


Q: Master, I do not abstain from the five desires, and I am free from attachment. For instance, when I am eating, I'm not particular about vegetables or meat; a full stomach is my only concern. Does what I’m doing hinder Buddhist practice? 

A: The key is how you could master yourself and live free from attachment without abstaining from the five desires. Usually, people are unaware of their own afflictions. 


Q: Master, sometimes you teach us to mind our own business. Yet it happens a lot that we have done a good job and others not. For example, sometimes when I try to do good things to my mum, my mum would say, “Mind your own business and don't point a finger at me.” If I really did not mind her business, there would be no chance for my mum to correct herself. When I minded her business and reminded her to be considerate to others, things would look up. 

A: "Mind others' business" has two meanings: one is "to manage, discipline and control others", and the other "to care for and help others". When we say "do not mind others' business", we often refer to the first meaning. When we complain that someone only minds his own business, we refer to the second meaning -- he does not care for others. We need to be able to distinguish the two meanings and not be attached to either meaning solely. 


Q: Most humble greetings Master! Recently I encounter some frustration in life and my self-assurance is impaired. How do I get by with the frustration? 

A: Whose life has no frustration? 

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