Q: Amitabha Buddha! Master, may I ask you for instruction? One of my friends was always critical of me. I was tolerant with her and avoid contacting her. But she went even farther recently. Today she said some bad words about me to many people. I couldn’t help talking back, which made her embarrassed. I am very upset. Could you please give me advice about how I get along with her?
A: Laugh it off.
Q: If a person treats me unfairly, how should I face the situation? I happened to encounter such a person! Should I laugh it off or fight back? Ah, I really don’t know...
A: A Fire flares up in oil, and dies down in water. Being treated badly by others, if we face them with a peaceful mind, then the conflicts will be reduced, and we will feel relaxed.
Q: Master, How can we keep calm when facing others' malicious attacks? As a Buddha’s disciple, do we have to endure everything?
A: If they are telling the truths, what do you complain about? If they are not telling truths, what’s the necessity to respond?
Q: Master, is it right to forgive others’ faults repeatedly? Or, do I just give them more chances to hurt me? I am really confused.
A: It is not real forgiveness but just helpless and passive reaction with a fluke mind. Pain is caused by nothing else but our weak mind, so that other people have the chance to hurt us.